Getting Over Myself

Do you have health challenges? Struggles with your relationships? A dullness to your marriage? Your kids just won’t listen?

Dunt – du-na-naaaa! I’ll don my cape and fly to your rescue! Look up in the sky!! It’s a bird! No, it’s a plane! No, it’s “Super shYne”!!!!
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NOT!
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I am struggling here because I am being faced with issues that bring about the same feelings in me ... my desire to respond a certain way and I know it is not appropriate. So, I am learning to deal a different way.

When people I care about and/or respect are having hardships and challenges... I want to "fix" it.

I can't... "fix" it.

The words I want to say are words that I hope would motivate my friends to think positively about their circumstance. Mind you, these are people who "handle" their "trials and tribulations" relatively well anyway.... better than I handle mine in some cases. I may be able to offer a little assistance or a small financial reprieve... but it is hardly a dent if it is not a true resolution to their problem. I know that theirs is not my experience to have... but it pains me to observe others having their "experiences".

Although compassion is a good thing, I know that it is not my place to intervene in the Creator's works. As the Creator is refining Her/His creations... my meddling may bring about experiences that I would choose not to have. I have been chastised for this before and didn't realize what it was about. Some things I just take too far.

So, I asked myself. If I can't talk my friend into a better state of mind or being... if a "joke" is not appropriate... if I can't pay the bill for them on a regular basis... or buy their weekly grocery... or find the answers that medical doctors, healers, and spiritual counselors can't find... then what am I to do?

I AM TO LISTEN AND OBSERVE.
For a well-meaning meddler, this is a difficult task. But it must be done. The listening is as much for me as it is for my friend. This is how I learn some lessons or learn some possible resolutions that may help me or someone else in the future... or right now! This is how I can truly be an intercessory host thru prayer for this person... I will know what to meditate on and what to meditate for!

I AM TO MEDITATE/PRAY WITH PURPOSE.
I used to have an issue with the "ritualization" of spiritual matters... but i understand that the rituals are like benchmarks of where we are, what our purpose at that time is, and simply, a conscious effort to sanctify a moment of communicating love and admiration. I love my friends and family. But I am not the One. I do not have total control and all power. And it is not “mine” to find the answers for others any more than it is “mine” to judge others.

I AM TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.
The desired outcomes of my friends may not be the same as the desired outcomes I have for them! Can you believe that? I couldn't either. But it's true. While I am meditating that things work out for the better, there's a chance it may come to pass... but not as I thought it would. It is the best outcome or the desired outcome of my friend.

To comfort and console and support would be a massive achievement for me. And,these attributes are more in line with what my friends actually want from me anyway. So, I am "getting over myself" and bettering my experiences and relationships with the same effort and intention… minding my own business.

peace
shYne